Are you stressed out by tantrums of young children and their struggle to communicate? Having young children is hard, especially while going through all these new challenges. So for them to try to express themselves is to cry, hit, scream, stomp and throw for reasons we don’t understand. So how can we help our children and ourselves? First try to establish communication, second check to see if they have physical need, third offer more affection and fourth try to distract them from the situation.
Your best attempt is to communicate by calmly getting down to their level and in a a relaxed tone try to discuss the situation. Try to reason with them, and understand their point of view. Remind them that everything is okay, and everything is going to be just fine. If the situation is too stressful for you the best solution is to walk away an remain composure as long as the child is in a safe place. This is to be remembered through any situation.
The next step that should be taken is to see if the child hungry, thirsty, sleepy, needing a change, or in pain. Especially going through a growth spurt young children can eat more or less, and could sleep more frequently. Teething pain can cause a child to become very fussy, and not know how to express their pain. For example, when my toddler was teething some days he would sleep all day and not eat anything, and other days he would cry all day and fight any help. The only time my husband and I could get him to relax was when we give him pain medication. Each child experiences these things differently, but it’s best to consider these things to figure out what’s wrong with your child.
Sometimes when your kid is crying, screaming, and throwing themselves on the floor they just need some extra attention. Remind them that you love them by giving cuddles, hugs, kisses, and anything else that can remind them that you care and that you’re always there for them. For instance, when I had my second son my toddler became very jealous and threw many tantrums just for affection. To help him cope with this we traded roles so both parents could give each child a piece of one on one time.
Lastly, distract them by showing them their favorite books, toys, or giving them a bath. When my son is upset I bring out his tractors to help distract him. In some situations the child may need to be picked up and walked away from the situation to calm down and allow them to clear their mind and alleviate their anxieties. Children get embarrassed and stressed out similar to adults do and struggle to navigate the situation.
In summary, these tantrums are very hard for the child and you especially when we don’t understand what’s wrong with them. Remember that these tantrums are very normal and won’t last forever. Being here for your kid and understanding something is bothering them is the best thing we can do as their parents.
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